Why Do Kids Act
Dr. Buck makes the tools we use in early childhood
education accessible to parents. Her real world
examples will be familiar to anyone that has a child
(or was a child). Put choice theory to work for you
Clay Johnson, Director
The Goddard School, South Kingstown, RI
As a new mother Dr.
Buck's book is a gift!
... This book is different from all the other
parenting books out there, this one is helpful,
funny and loving.
... This book has helped me to understand my child's
needs and meet them in a way that strengthens our
bond rather than engaging in struggle.
... I will be a better parent and enjoy parenthood
more thanks to this book.
Amanda Campbell, Therapist & New Mother
Amanda C. Campbell, MA,
Certified Holistic Therapist, Private Practice
As a single working
mother of a 12 year old girl, Dr. Nancy Bucks
“Peaceful Parenting” has brought peace and
understanding to both myself and my daughter’s life.
...I first learned about “Peaceful Parenting” when
my daughter was only six, I still think on a regular
basis is this a negotiable want or not.
... I know as my daughter and I enter the teen years
I will keep referring to “Peaceful Parenting” to
help guide my family.
.. Reading Dr. Nancy Buck Book Why Do Kids Act That
Way? The Instruction Manual Parents Need To
Understand Children at Every Age has been very
helpful in understanding my daughter’s wants and has
made life easier for my entire family.
Director of Recruitment for Foster Families
Family Care For Children and Youth, Inc., Lewisburg,
As a public school
kindergarten teacher my daily practice with children
means I am constantly working hard to find ways to
help children enjoy their school experience on their
terms. It is difficult because they are in a class
with nineteen other kids. Through the reading and
use of Dr. Buck's book I have learned so much about
what the children need and how to allow them to make
their own choices
... As the mom of two children. Dr. Buck's practical
suggestions have helped me to help my own children
be the best they can be and enjoy their life
experiences, learning to depend on themselves and
make the choices that will work best for them.
As both a mother of four
young children and a therapist, I thank Dr. Buck for
this innovative new book. 5b. The practical
strategies and techniques Dr. Buck teaches will be
helpful to me with both my own children and those in
... I highly recommend this wonderful book to
parents and anyone who works with children.
Heather Martin, MSW, LICSW
Clinical Social Worker
Dr. Buck's book provides
invaluable information to all of us about human
behavior ... When I learned how children's actions
are actually attempts to meet their universal human
needs, that knowledge dramatically affected how I
now work with children, as well as parents and
... After reading Dr. Buck’s books I no longer
become the "principal terror".
Elementary Principal, San Antonio, Texas
Mother of one daughter and two step sons.
As a clinician and the
mother of a boy now 25 and a girl 20, I wish I had
read Nancy Buck's book when they were
babies...However, I find myself using Dr. Buck’s her
wisdom now, to great effect.
...This is a book for parents of children of all
ages and it can be applied not only to your own
children, but everyone else's as well!
...I work with children who are grieving the death
of a close family member and have used Nancy's
teaching to help them realize the strengths they
have and how to go about accessing and using them.
...I recommend her books to all the parents I work
with to make their job of parenting through grief
that much easier.
...Forget Supernanny and Dr. Phil: Nancy Buck is the
parenting guru as far as I'm concerned.
Susan A. McGregor, MA
Program Coordinator for FRIENDS WAY, a children's
bereavement center in Warwick, RI
As an adoptive parent, I
can only say that Dr. Buck's new book is an absolute
'how to' for parenting.
...Dr. Buck’s book is useful, meaningful, and fun as
...Dr. Buck’s understanding of the tussles we get
into with our kids is amazing.
...I would highly recommend it to anyone who is
parenting, grandparenting, and or teaching.
Lillian K. Hosman
Faculty, The William Glasser Institute, Portland, OR
Elementary School Principal, retired
Dr. Buck’s most recent
book, Why Do Kids Act That Way? The Instruction
Manual Parents Need to Understand Children at Every
Age is a great tool for learning new parenting
techniques and enhancing already tried and true
...As a parent, grandparent and child welfare
administrator, it has been helpful in many ways and
ties in beautifully with my own beliefs regarding
raising responsible and happy children.
Lauren A. Leap, ACSW, LSW
Director of Foster Care, Family Care for Children
and Youth, Inc., Lewisburg, PA
Nancy continues to
demonstrate her kind, peaceful parenting wisdom in
Why Do Kids Act That Way?
...Dr. Buck not only answers the key question for
which her book is named, but also helps parents to
develop a renewed authentic curiosity about their
...Parents will find themselves automatically
examining their interactions and searching for
understanding instead of misbehavior.
What a relief! Finally,
a book that helps parents understand their children
from the inside out!
...Dr. Buck provides parents with an approach to
parenting that leads to joyful and satisfying
...This is a must-read book for all parents, as well
as for teachers, counselors, or anyone who interacts
with children on a regular basis.
Patricia Robey, Ed.D.
Assistant Professor in Counseling at Governors State
Dr. Robey has four children and has successfully
applied Dr. Buck’s ideas in her own role as a
Why Do Kids Act That
Way? picks up where Peaceful Parenting left off.
...Peaceful Parenting was invaluable to me as the
mother of a son with ADD.
...Over all those difficult, growing-up years,
Nancy's advice helped me learn how to work with my
son to understand why he was acting the way he was
and to help him get what he needed to succeed.
My son, now 22, is employed full-time with the U.S.
government, living on his own, and working towards a
...There's so much good information in Why Do Kids
Act That Way? that I almost wish my two children
weren't already grown up!
...Nancy's book will be a handbook for parents that
they will refer to over and over again.
Nancy Buck has done it
again! Just when it seemed that the
indulgent-techno-popular culture had undermined our
parental good sense, along comes this wonderful dose
of practical wisdom.
...Why Do Kids Act That Way? is an indispensible
roadmap for today's parent.
Richard Primason, Ph.D.,
author of Choice Parenting
Clinical Psychologist, private practice Westchester
Father of two sons
I’m so excited about
this book, it’s simply a book that every parent and
grandparent needs to read.
...Dr. Buck’s common sense approach to parenting
will provide you with all the information you need
to understand behavior at every age.
...This book is brimming with good news about why
our children behave as they do, arming you with
information and giving you the confidence to trust
yourself and your child to make the right decisions.
...Dr. Buck’s casual style and sense of humor makes
it an enjoyable read for even the busiest parents.
Owner, Creative Solutions Group
Mother of 2, Grandmother of 2
Since reading the
wonderful book Why Do Kids Act That Way I have not
stopped talking about it to everyone, from my mom,
sister, friends and of course every parent I have
...I now have tools to make an immediate and drastic
change with my seven year old son and our
...As the president of the PTA our group is
frequently discussing the disturbing dilemmas
children face in school; from lack of empathy, poor
communication skills, cafeteria madness to children
bullying other children. This book explains these
behaviors and offers immediate solutions to these
...The ideas in both of Dr. Buck’s books can be
applied not just by parents and teachers but to any
person’s every day relationships. Thank you for
these fantastic books.
Sabrina Gonzalez, PTA President
Midland School, Rochelle Park, NJ
Thank you for your
outstanding book, Why Do Kids Act That Way? Your
thoughts and views are very insightful and gave my
husband and me a new way of looking at our kids and
...I’ve recently implemented the “sure you can have
candy” rule and my kids looked at me like I had
three heads! Other parents are curious to see if it
works for us and then they will try it with their
...Thanks for refreshing and helpful parenting
Paul and Shannon Alves
We need to make a
difference in this world of ever increasing
conflict...and Nancy Buck delivers the basis of that
...In Why do Kids Act That Way?, we learn that it is
not out of our reach to understand our children, to
remember to have fun with them, to share power and
allow for the freedom to try things out while
staying connected to the next generations .
... I will be sharing Dr. Buck’s ideas with clients
and of course my beloved family!!
...This book is just packed with wise and wonderful
ways to raise our children and grandchildren.
... The Epilogue and the 2 rules for successful
parenting are a must conclusion for all to read!!
Ellen B. Gélinas, M.Ed
Canadian Certified Counselor
Reality Therapy Certified
President, William Glasser Institute - Canada
Canadian Representative to the Advisory Board of The
William Glasser Institute
President, Learn and Laugh Inc
Counselor, facilitator, humorist
Mother of 2 wonderful young adults and grandmother
of 2 amazing little beings who need me to learn and
practice what Nancy is teaching!
This book is one of the
best "How to" Manuals for understanding children
that I have ever read!
...Dr. Buck really understands what motivates
children and parents in the dance they co-create.
...Dr. Buck provides practical, concrete ideas for
respectful interaction that helps parents raise
responsible kids while maintaining a positive,
influential relationship with them.
Kim Olver, MS, LPC (licensed professional counselor)
Mother of two sons
Nancy has done it
again...providing clear and down-to-earth advice and
examples for all of us who want to be the best
parents we can be.
...This new book is a must read if you want to forge
long-lasting, close relationships with your
Aspen Elementary Parent Education Chair; Former
Mother of Caden (2), Avery (7) and Ellory (11).
I have read and
implemented with my staff Nancy Buck’s Book which is
Titled “Why Do Kids Act That Way?” This is an
excellent resource for parents, Foster parents and
for my staff. I would highly recommend all parents
read her book.
Teresa Storer, MSW, LSW
Family Care for Children and Youth, Inc, Lewisburg,
Dr. Buck has given us a
practical “ How to “ extension of her earlier work “
...Nancy's common language explanation of human
behavior is tremendously helpful in realizing that
our children are in fact human and behave much as we
...Parenting without a doubt is one if not the most
important and awesome endeavors that one can engage
in. With that in mind Dr. Buck helps to demystify
parenting and at the same time encourages parents
with suggestions and tips that are rooted in strong
... A must read for parents and anyone who works
David Moran, M.Ed
associate professor Bridgewater State College
Dr. Buck has a warm,
personal style that complements her professional
expertise in the area of parenting.
...Dr. Buck writes clearly using engaging anecdotes
that explain not only why kids behave the way they
do but also how to improve family relationships.
...Parents and others learn much from her practical
approach to difficult situations.
Albert J. Katz, MS, NCSP, RTC
William Glasser Institute
Why Do Kids Act That
Way? is a valuable guide to handling the trials and
tribulations of parenthood without getting caught in
the behavior control game.
...We all need to remember that kids are trying to
be heard, if we choose to listen. The specific
examples in this book help parents to practice new
behaviors that, in turn, give them the opportunity
to have a positive and rich relationship with their
children - no matter the age.
...As a professional, I was impressed with the way
Nancy Buck makes the concepts of choice theory and
Peaceful Parenting understandable.
...As a parent, I was grateful for the specific
scenarios so I will make a better choice next time
my teen and tween are "misbehaving"!
Middle School Guidance Counselor; Parent
Dr. Buck’s newest book
is both enlightening and informative in an enjoyable
...Dr. Buck has addressed every issue imaginable
with easily applicable solutions.
...Finally a parenting book worth reading!
School counselor; Reality therapist; Parent
Dr. Buck’s has written a
marvelous book, providing me with new insights
especially with our 3 grandkids in mind.
...Dr. Buck has provided the best description of
FREEDOM need along with practical strategies I've
read in awhile-good down to earth, useable stuff.
...This book shows parents and grandparents
insightful ways to influence their children's
behavior at any age.
...Using Dr. Buck’s books I am able to practice the
idea that teaching replaces punishment and scolding.
...Remembering the simple act of asking before
reacting resolves most common problems.
...Read the highlighted parenting tips sprinkled
throughout the book.
....If you know a teenager, READ THIS BOOK.
Educator/Administrator and Current Grandparent of 3
Dr. Buck provides the
magical question along with practical steps to
recapture the pleasures of parenting by becoming the
parent you want to be.
...Finally, an author who has taken the mystery out
of parenting! A must read!
...Dr. Buck brings magic and enchantment coupled
with practical steps in becoming the parent you want
...Finally, an author who has taken the mystery out
of parenting! A book not to be missed!
...No more guesswork on how to parent!
...Dr. Buck offers the ‘magical’ question followed
by a step-by-step approach that recaptures the
pleasures of parenting.
...Become the parent you want to be and read Why Do
Kids Act That Way? today!
...Dr. Buck is the ultimate storyteller. In Why Do
Kids Act That Way? Nancy offers the magic and
enchantment of parenting and provides basic steps in
being the parent you want to be!
...Why Do Kids Act That Way? may be read to your
children so they, too, can understand “why” parents
and children do the things they do! A must-read!
...Dr. Buck brings magic and enchantment to a
practical and informative book through personal
experience, sensitivity and insight.
...Finally, an author who has taken the mystery out
of parenting while retaining its ‘wonder'
Jean Seville Suffield, Parent/Grandparent
Author and Trainer
The William Glasser Institute
Jensen Learning Corporation
Praise for Peaceful
Dr. Nancy Buck presents a clear, comprehensive
process to help parents develop and maintain the
vital relationship necessary for a healthy future
for our families and our nation. Peaceful Parenting®
is a desperately needed book addressing the issue of
parenting, an area that very much needs a fresh
approach. Read this book carefully and you will see
clearly how what Nancy does teaches both the child
and adult to take responsibility for what they do.
Dr. William Glasser
President and Founder of the William Glasser
Founder of Reality Therapy, Choice Theory and
The style of writing is as gentle and patient as the
approach recommended. The theory is convincing and
manifests common sense. The multiple anecdotes and
examples are offered all in good humor and humility.
I mean it sincerely when I say that this book needs
to be widely available to today's parents, teachers,
and all others who are involved in the loving and
responsible nurturing of children. I say this as a
clergyperson, a father and a grandfather.
Dr. William Houff
Unitarian Universalist Minister
speaks directly to parents who seek to engage in
child rearing practices that are neither overly
permissive nor harshly punitive. The readily
accessible writing style, fee of jargon and rich in
concrete examples, is ideally suited to parents.
Particularly impressive is the perspective of
"peaceful" which emphasized cooperation and
constructive competitiveness. This emphasis
contrasts with the negativity and retribution of
such approaches as "tough love" parenting.
Dr. Mary Sheerin
Early Childhood Specialist
of choice theory is not only sound, it obviously
works! Also, the stories enrich the theory in
chapter after chapter. This book will be warmly
welcomed and read cover-to-cover by parents and
those who are "expecting" to be parents. It has
practical application across the child/adolescent
life span. I encourage all to read this important
Dr. Gail Brophy
The Union Institute
Comments from parents completing a 10-week course in
"In this chaotic world we
have little time to devote to what really matters.
This course is a beautiful reminder."
Lori R, mother of 2 young children
"This class helped me feel good about being a parent
with my children. I learned to work with them to
cooperate with me."
Jennifer B, mother of 3 elementary aged boys
"Nancy make learning easy and enjoyable. She gives
great examples, is non-judgmental and really
Shannon M, mother of boy-girl twins
"It has helped me be a more calm parent, better able
to help my child learn how to get what he wants and
Sherleen M, mother of toddler
"I learned that as hard as it is to be a parent, it
is just as hard to be a kid."
Simone, mother of tween and teen girls
"I learned how to handle difficulties in a more
relaxed and effective manner."
Robert J, father of teenagers
"I would recommend that every parent who loves their
child take this class."
Albert F, stepfather of 4
"As a result of this class I'm a calmer parent. I
just don't get upset as often. Now my child and I
compromise so we can both get what we want."
Florinda M, mother of active 2nd grader
"This information made me learn how to be a more
responsible, loving and caring parent."
Elaine P, mother of 2
"I would definitely recommend this course to other
parents, especially single moms like myself, because
it really helped me in many ways."
Patty B., mother of 2 girls and a boy
"This workshop has helped me to understand that my
child's behavior really does have a purpose and what
that purpose is, even thought they may not know it.
In return it helped me to meet their needs quicker
and more accurately."
Sally C, mother of preteen
"I've learned different ways to be a Mom."
Elizabeth B, mother of 2 daughters
"I found this course personally rewarding."
Deb S, custodial grandmother of preschooler
"Nancy is a great teacher. She puts a very special
touch on her time with us. We all learned a lot with
Amanda L, mother of 2 boys and 2 girls
"It would be wonderful to have more groups like this
in the community."
Wendy H, mother of blended family of 6
"I understand my child and my own needs so much
better than I ever thought."
Single mother Anna G
"Nancy explains things so clearly and gave us such
"I am a calmer and happier parent because of this
Kate, mother of 3 very busy boys.